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WALKING INTO MEDIATION UNPREPARED?

Don't Just Turn Up and
See What Happens

Sarah walked into mediation confident she knew what to expect. Three hours later, she was signing an agreement she'd regret for years. Don't let this be your story.

"I thought I was ready. I was clear on what I wanted. But when my ex started his manipulation tricks and the mediator seemed to side with him, I froze. I agreed to things I never should have agreed to, just to get out of there."

- Mediation participant

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Decode & Solve Difficult Communication with Your Ex

Receive personalised guidance on how to solve difficult communication with your Ex.
Simply upload a message thread and within 48 hours get a personalised video from Simon.

Stop circular arguments, fights, abuse. 
Create communication and boundaries that work.
 
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"If you want something different to come out mediation, then you have to go into mediation and do something different."

SIMON DADLEY-MOORE

 

The Three Stories I Hear Almost Every Week

These are real people. Real situations. Real consequences of walking into mediation unprepared.

Story #1: "I Agreed to Things Just to End It"

"My ex kept interrupting and talking over me. When I reacted I became the unreasonable one. I felt so overwhelmed that I just started agreeing to things to make it stop. Now I can barely afford my rent, and I see my kids every other weekend instead of the shared custody I wanted."

What went wrong: No plan for staying regulated under pressure. No strategy for handling manipulation. No understanding of how to communicate effectively in a mediation setting. 

Story #2: "We Just Kept Going in Circles"

"Four hours. Four hours of the same arguments we'd been having for months. She blamed me for the past. I pointed out that she wasn't all innocent angel herself. The mediator finally said we should just go to court. I have now wasted over $2000 in mediation and legal fees and we are no closer to agreement."

What went wrong: Stuck in the same destructive patterns. No tools to break the attack-defend cycle. No plan for constructive communication.

Story #3: "I Lost My Cool. It Ruined Everything"

"When he started lying about the finances and trying to make me look like the bad parent, I just snapped. I started yelling, brought up all the things he'd done wrong. The mediator ended the session. Now he is pushing for full custody in court.

What went wrong: No emotional regulation tools. No preparation for dealing with triggers. No strategy for responding to false accusations

Here's the truth: These outcomes were completely avoidable.

Every one of these people could have got more out of mediation if they had prepared for what were very predictable situations.

 

Now Meet David

David was heading into mediation with his ex-wife about the children's care arrangements and child -support.

Like most people,
he thought there was not much point preparing because "its not going to work anyway!"

           David's Fears

  • "What if she manipulates the conversation like she always does?"
  • "What if I lose my temper when she starts lying?"
  • "What if I agree to something stupid just to end the fighting?"
  • "What if I walk away with less time with my kids?" 
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After Pre-Mediation Coaching

"I can't believe how different it was. When she started her usual manipulation tactics, I didn't take the bait. I had a plan. I knew exactly how to respond. We actually had productive conversations about the kids. I got the custody schedule I wanted, and we both walked away feeling heard."

Here's What Changed Everything for David

  • #1 He Learned to Recognize the Traps
    When she tried to bait him into an argument, he saw it coming and didn't engage.
  • #2 He Had a Communication Strategy
    Instead of reacting emotionally, he spoke in ways that kept the conversation productive.
  • #3 He Stayed Regulated Under Pressure
    Even when things got tense, he had tools to stay calm and think clearly.
  • #4 He Knew How to Redirect
    When conversations went off track, he had techniques to bring focus back to solutions.
  • #5 He Practiced Difficult Scenarios
    We rehearsed the hardest conversations so nothing caught him off guard.
  • #6 He Had Clear Goals
    He knew exactly what he wanted and had a plan to get there.
  • #7 He Could Handle Attacks
    When she made accusations, he responded calmly without getting defensive.
  • #8 He Kept His Power
    He never gave away his strength or let her control the dynamic.
OVER A DECADE OF EXPERIENCE

I've Helped Thousands Navigate Mediation Successfully

For over a decade, I was at the forefront of developing and facilitating Fair Way Resolution's hugely successful Preparation for Mediation (PFM) coaching service.

10+

Years of Experiences

1000s

Families Helped

5*****

Experiense

Real people. Real outcomes. Real transformations.

The Results Speak for Themselves

"Hi Simon, the mediation went really well this morning! No anger, nice and calm, we resolved lots of issues, I had plenty of breaks so I could think clearly! Awesome result. Thank you so much for your coaching, it was really helpful!!"

- Michelle
Sent this text 2 hours after her mediation

"I was dreading mediation for months. After working with Simon, I
actually felt confident walking in. We reached an agreement in 3 hours
that works for both of us and, most importantly, puts our daughter first."

- James
Father of one, successful mediation

What's the difference between these success stories and the disasters you heard earlier?

Preparation. Strategy. The right tools at the right time.

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Behaviours I Can Help You With

  • stop getting pulled into a fight.
  • set effective boundaries
  • communicate in a way that makes it least likely your ex will get defensive or attack.
  • communicate in a way that makes it most likely your message will be received accurately.
  • find confidence, clarity and strength in your communication.
  • change the way you communicate with your ex-partner forever.
  • create change in the way communication happens with your ex.

Situations I Can Help You Solve

  • You have received a message and you are unsure how to respond.
  • You want to talk about difficult topic and you are unsure how best to go about this.
  • You have sent a message and they have responded defensively or on the attack.
  • You are constantly receiving abuse or putdowns.
  • Your messages get ignored.
  • You have tried everything to improve communication and nothing has worked.
Yes, I'm Ready to Create Change!

Kia ora! My name is Simon Dadley-Moore. I am a Family Mediator and Communication & Conflict coach.

For over 30 years I have worked in the front line, helping people communicate effectively, resolve their conflicts, and create positive change.

My passion is communication. I have spent years deconstructing the different styles of communication and learning to replicate their patterns, structures, and make-up. I have spent thousands of hours with clients helping them upskill in the art of communication and conflict.

Everyone can improve the way they communicate - you too.

You just need to know how.

I can help you with this.

I will guide you through your difficult communication and help you create change.

YOU CAN change the way communication happens between you and your ex-partner.

FAQs

IT'S TIME TO MAKE A DECISION

WHICH STORY WILL BE YOURS?

Without Preparation:
  • Walk in blind and reactive
  • Get manipulated and overwhelmed
  • Agree to things you'll regret
  • Walk away frustrated and powerless
  • End up in court anyway
With Pre-Mediation Coaching:
  • Walk in confident with a clear plan
  • Stay calm under pressure
  • Communicate effectively
  • Reach agreements that actually work
  • Move forward with your life

Your mediation is scheduled. It's happening.
The question isn't whether you'll show up—
it's whether you'll show up prepared.

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